Although it seems like an eternity to us, it has only been 3 months today that we lost Luke. We are, very much so, still struggling to do the day to day things. But I have found some things that have helped me and I thought I would share:
Books:
Teardrop Soup; When your Prayers Seem Unanswered; Understanding Death; The Gateway We Call Death; If God Loves Me, Why This?
Quotes:
"If ever there is a tomorrow when we're not together. . . There is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we're apart. . . I'll always be with you."~Winnie the Pooh
The best way to have Heaven in your home, is to have someone from your home in Heaven.
“God didn't promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow, sun without rain, but He did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears, and light for the way.”
Tidbits:
Learn to look for joy in the moment. Learn to celebrate what you do have. Change the way you look at things.
Find the light that your loved one brought to your life. Find the music of your loved one and listen to it if only in your memory. Our loved ones laughed and giggled and sang. Find that memory, appreciate it, and honor it by the way you live.
We still have so far to go, but appreciate your love and prayers and thoughts!!!
We love you still and forever, our Luker boy!
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
3 Months
Posted by Jan at 1:39 PM
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Thank you for your perspective today. xoxo
We love you Jan and Bryan, and you are in our thoughts and prayers every day. I don't think the pain will ever go away, but I promise you, from experience, that one day it will be lessened, just a little bit. Keep going, I say to myself alot, "Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming." Love you.
I have always loved that part of the Winnie the Pooh movie!! He is never far away in our thoughts, and you are always in my prayers. I have found some comfort in that even though the pain stays, the love still finds a way to grow.
We love you!!
What a wonderful, thought provoking post. I think about you both--and the boys--so much. My students don't know what is wrong when they walk in the room and I am crying, but your love and strength are so admirable. I love you guys and keep you in my prayers constantly. Keep your chin up!
You are the strongest person I know. I know it is so hard to understand, and I can't comprehend your pain BUT I do know the plan and that is my comfort. Each day I plead for your family to be strong, find hope, and be happy. This experience has deepened the love I have for you and Brian! You can do it!
My mom gave me "If God loves me, why this?" after our first failed IVF. Getting through the book hasn't happened, I break down sobbing, but I have skipped around.
It's awesome.
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